I shoulda, woulda, coulda compare myself to…?!

Have you ever thought something along the lines of “I wish I could be like…”?

And whether that sentence ends in “my past self”, “a better version of myself” or “person X”, it is a form of comparison.

Shoulda, woulda, coulda…

You might not be thinking much of it but what’s actually happening here is that you’re running a conscious or unconscious pattern of comparing yourself to anything BUT yourself and where you’re at in this present moment...

“I shoulda woulda coulda like to be someone else” works against developing self-love and actually creates roadblocks in your journey towards progress and achieving your goals.

How does this happen?

Often it’s the stories that you’re telling yourself on a daily basis and they often have deep roots in your upbringing or beliefs that you’ve established when you were much younger but at the same time it’s influences from media and social media. Passing your time by scrolling through Facebook and Instagram can often have a more detrimental impact than you might think.

Who do you really want to be?

Let’s be honest: deep down you don’t actually want to be someone else but somehow you see in other people what you’d like to have more of…

BUT really- you’ve only seen a fraction of their life; you don’t know what their values and goals are, you don’t even know whether they’re happy or not.

How to compare yourself to yourself right now!

Phew! I’m sure by now you feel like it’s actually silly to be comparing yourself to others, right?

Next week, I’m going to share with you a 5-step process on how to stop wasting your energy on comparing yourself to others and start developing crazy self-love! Sounds good?

In the meantime I’m curious to hear from you about:

  • Are you constantly comparing yourself to others or just longing ‘to be more/ better’?
  • Do you often look at yourself in the mirror and are not happy with what you see?
  • When you go the gym or to social events do you feel uncomfortable in your own skin?

Stay tuned for the 5 step process!!!




Nina Egenberger
Nina Egenberger

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